Never felt the search (the need ?) for some intimacy while clubbing ? Go to some slower beats and have a dance with the girl standing next to you ??? Oh yes, I know how it may sound a bit laidback, if not coming from another age. This said, between you and I, I doubt you've never had. Have you ???

Funny how things have gone along the years/decades leading us to the way of life which is ours in this reputedly modern urban environment ! This said, as already stated on these pages, these are two ways of seing the bottle. Some of us would go for the half full one, meanwhile some others would opt for the half empty and, frankly speaking, I'm not too sure about my choice regarding this precise subject… Of course, loads of things have occured since, seing us surrounded by more and more performant technology, but what about loneliness ? Just have a look at the numerous publications here and there and you'll see tons and tons of classifieds with men/women seeking their honies, not to mention Internetwise. As if real meeting had been made nearly impossible along the years… How come ? The reasons are countless but amongst them, one appears to be evident : the lack of places where you can meet someone. Unless, it's just a lack of atmospheres devoted to such a basic thing…

I remember talking about this matter some 10 years ago with a 20 something girl who was deep into European techno music and raves. She said to me : "Everything's fine ! We gather and dance all night living on our own bubbles…" Words that to me were speaking for themselves - aren't they ? -, quite revealing of the fragmentation of our system.

Litteraly obsessed by competition, our societies have progressively got rid of notions such as romantism, sweetness and the likes, as if there was no space anymore for fragility, if not (simply) humanity, thus leaving their components (us) with a growing amount of existential questions…

Club culture on its globality – this meaning its providers (the promoters and the DJ's) – has a lot to do with it, seing people dancing on their own all nite long while in the mean time put together on the same dancefloor. Quite ironical, isn't it ? Hmmm, you dare ! Surely also because of some x-tra financial reason as it's easier to get people thirsty on uptempos that on cool beatz, isn't it (neither) ??? Although risking to sound out of date, the club culture, being what it is nowadays, has seen its main character – music – loosing a big part of its social role, as it has become nearly impossible for people to think about dancing with somebody, and I'm not even talking about having some slow time.

On the other hand, those are signs of evident search for it, having a listen to the vast amount of cool R&B beats that gets aired on the US radio stations. Not to mention the continuing success of latin music nites (remember the so called Descarga ones in UK !) if not, to a lesser extend, the recent hype around lounge music. As a matter of fact, let me end up this cool reflection on a couple of French sayings : music softens manners, and there's a time for everything ! MFSB